Catholic Courier

Posted: August 11, 2010

Love is patient, love is kind

By Deacon John Brasley

Belinda and I recently attended a wedding at which the following Scripture was proclaimed:

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.

"Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails." (1 Corinthians 13:4-8)

This passage, often heard at weddings, expresses the kind of love that is possible when the love of Jesus is reflected in Christian marriage.

These words can help us recognize the degree to which the love of Christ is present in our marriage, by substituting our own names for the word "love."

John is patient, John is kind. He does not envy, he does not boast, he is not proud. He is not rude, he is not self-seeking, he is not easily angered, he keeps no record of wrongs.

As I hear my name taking the place of"love," at some points the words resonate as true, but at times I cringe as I realize how my love falls short of this ideal, as I strive to love Belinda in our marriage as Christ loves us.

Belinda does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. She always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Belinda never fails.

Hearing these words applied to the way Belinda loves me helps me to appreciate her supportive affirmation, encouragement and steadfast love. I grow more aware of the faithful way she stands by me through the joys and struggles we have shared in our marriage.

How are these words from Scripture reflected in your own marriage or in the marriages of the people you love?


Dick Myers
Such a fine and simple way to reflect on our marriages, John. It resonated so well as I read it to my wife Elizabeth. Thank you.
August 12, 2010, 12:14 AM
Brenda Hascall
Even though this post was from a long time ago. It came up from googling Love is and looking for the Catholic Perspective. It's my 24th anniversary and I have been delighted in reading this post and about marriage. Beautiful sacrament, thank you.
July 2, 2012, 1:15 AM
Lisa Zisk
St Joseph's Roman Catholic Church Suffield, CT 9/7/91- Steve and I have been married almost 26 years. We listened to these words during our ceremony. Not always easy, but, we have done a prettty good job?
February 13, 2017, 9:54 PM
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