Four ways to deal with disappointment - Catholic Courier

Four ways to deal with disappointment

You didn’t make the team … it turns out she doesn’t like you back … yeah, that part in the play you wanted so bad? You didn’t get it. Disappointment takes many different forms; some of them are just irritating, and others seriously devastating. Whether it’s a bad grade or a friend who stabs you in the back, learning to deal with the letdowns of life without becoming permanently bitter or angry is an important life skill. It’s also part of being a disciple, a person of hope. We all know people whose bad experiences have gotten the better of them and they’ve turned nasty or cynical. But I’m always amazed at those people who are able to deal with really difficult situations or significant loss and still have hope. Their disappointments take many different forms — from  living with a disability or serious illness to losing someone they love — but  they all seem to have a light inside, something that keeps them from sinking into anger or hopelessness. Here’s my short list of advice on dealing with disappointment, based on the things I’ve noticed about those people:

1) Take good care of yourself. Sometimes when times are tough we forget about the basics, like sleeping and eating. Exercise and get outside. Do things you enjoy, artists create, musicians play and sing, readers lose yourself in your favorite books!

2) Don’t look too far ahead. When you’re already down it can be hard to look toward the future with hope and easy to feel like things will never get better. For extra strength read Matthew 6:25-34.

3) Remember you’re not alone. Spend time with the people who care about you, the ones who make you feel good about yourself. And remember that (even though it might feel like it) God hasn’t forgotten you.

4) Help somebody. There’s nothing that can make you feel better like doing something for someone else, a good deed, a kind word, even though it might take extra effort when you’re already feeling down, the payback is double!

How do you handle the hard times? Got any advice for others when it comes to dealing with disappointment?

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