Getting to heaven - Catholic Courier

Getting to heaven

John and I once attended a marriage workshop where the speaker challenged us to answer the following question:

What have you done today to help your spouse get to heaven?

The speaker was NOT talking about a husband and wife forcing each other to change to fit into some preconceived idea of holiness. He was not advocating nagging or lecturing or preaching at each other. He was not saying that one of us knows the key to holiness and has to bring the other around to that way of thinking.

The speaker’s point was that one of the important aspects of marriage is that the sacrament gives us the grace to help each other grow in faith and learn to follow God’s call. Each day brings us opportunities to pray for each other, to point out to each other God’s action in our life. We have the chance to show each other who we have the potential to become.

I’ve thought about that speaker’s question many times. I think of it on days when John and I barely have two minutes to talk. I think of it on days when I am grumpy or short-tempered or rude. I think of it on days when I don’t take time to pray for John or our family. On these days, I don’t like my answer and resolve to do better.

I also think of the question when I notice God working in our lives and point it out to John. I think of it when I use loving words and gestures and when I listen. I think of it when we pray together or laugh together or talk together. I think about it when I feel my faith grow because of something John says or does. On days such as these, I like my answer.

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