Ed: A few months before graduation, we told our friends we were dating. Over and over they repeated,”It’s about time. What took you so long? We knew you were perfect for each other freshman year.”
Leonor: Once I had a very bad breakup with a boyfriend. A friend was consoling me. She told me I was better off and could now date nicer guys. Ed happened to call me. My friend started whispering, “He’s perfect. Tell him you broke up and want to date him.” Ed had called to tell me he was dating a new girl and wanted me to meet her. My heart sank. I said, “I’m happy for you. I would love to meet her. If you chose her, I’m sure she’s a nice girl.” After I hung up, I burst into tears. My friend asked why I didn’t tell him. I said, “If she makes him happy, then I don’t want to mess that up. I want him to be happy even if it’s not with me.” My friend, “Oh my God. You are so in love with him and you don’t even know it.” That painful memory was all in the past. Our friends were happy for us, and so were we.
Ed: Years later, our son, Jordan, then a teen, would stand up at a youth Mass to talk about our marriage and say, “I’m not saying that my parents are perfect or anything like that. But you know what? They’re perfect for each other.”
We are still as imperfect as they come. We are opposites in many ways. Sometimes we argue and get on each other’s nerves. We have come to realize that if you trust God, He can take your individual imperfections and make you perfect for each other.
Leonor “Leo” and Ed Rivera are members of the local Worldwide Marriage Encounter community.