Taking the risk
Ed: In the middle of our senior year in college, I remember leaving the library with Leonor one afternoon after a study-group session. As we caught up about our personal lives, we were surprised to find out that neither of us was dating anyone at that time. One of us had always been dating someone. We stopped to sit on a bench to talk and listen, giving each other our full attention. I asked, “Why is it that I couldn’t keep my relationship going? I tried really hard to make things work, but my girlfriend never really understood me the way you do.”
Leonor: “I know what you mean, my boyfriend didn’t encourage me to go after my dreams, the way you do.”
Ed: “My girlfriend didn’t listen to me so closely like you do.”
Leonor: “My boyfriend didn’t see the bright side of life like you do.”
This continued back and forth until there was a long, awkward silence. Ed broke the silence.
Ed: “Are you thinking what I’m thinking?”
Leonor: “I think so, but I don’t know if I’m willing to risk losing you if dating doesn’t work out. You’re my best friend. I can’t imagine my life without you.”
Another awkward pause.
Ed: “But if we don’t take the risk we might never know what we could be together.” I reached out and squeezed Leonor’s hand for the first time.
Looking back today, we ask ourselves, “Do we tell each other about the good qualities we see in each other? Do we talk and listen to each other like we used to?” Not always. We’re as imperfect as they come; but remembering how we used to be helps us keep taking the risk again and again to be more than best friends.
Leonor “Leo” and Ed Rivera are members of the local Worldwide Marriage Encounter community.