Ed: We were engaged. We had the wedding rings. We reserved the church. Now we needed the dress and tuxedo. Dresses in boutiques were expensive. We were on a tight budget.
Leonor: One of my sisters offered her beautiful wedding gown. It fit perfectly. Another sister couldn’t attend the wedding. She gave me her wedding veil to be with me in spirit. It matched the dress.
Ed: Leonor’s best friend from college would be her maid of honor. My best man was my best friend from high school. We would wear rented tuxedos. We decided there would be no groomsmen or bridesmaids. The ring bearer and flower girl would be adorable little daughters of good friends of mine. They would wear pink sundresses.
Leonor: My best friend had been a bridesmaid at a wedding a few months before, and she would wear that dress again. God had figured out the wedding clothes, as he promised in Matthew 6:28-29: “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these.”
Ed: Looking back, we realized that we spent most of our efforts focused on getting the church wedding, readings and rituals right. All the other details, like what we wore, didn’t seem to be as important to us as being married in the church standing before God surrounded by family and friends witnessing our promises.
The church we were married in is still our church to this day. Every time we walk in, we ask God to bless us as we do our best to try to live out the promises we made on our wedding day.
Leonor “Leo” and Ed Rivera are members of the local Worldwide Marriage Encounter community. To learn more about Worldwide Marriage Encounter, visit www.wwme.org. To read more of Leo and Ed’s blogs, visit https://catholiccourier.com/viewpoints/blogs/to-have-and-to-hold.