This fall, the world’s bishops will gather in Rome to discuss church ministry to youth and young adults. Pope Francis has called on church leadership not simply to talk about young people but to listen directly to them. I would highlight three traits young people desperately crave from the church:
• Authenticity: Young people are inundated by digital interactions and immersed in a sea of competing ideas. We are bombarded by fake news and pressured to believe that the friends and celebrities we follow on Instagram truly are living their best lives 24/7.
We don’t know what’s real.
And we hunger for a church that can name explicitly what we’re experiencing, while guiding us through spiritual discernment of what it means.
We are allergic to artificiality, and too often, adults in the church project an impossibly pious exterior that young people know isn’t honest — and if it were, they wouldn’t be able to live up to it anyway. As a cohort, young Americans are congenitally cynical, and want adults to be real with them instead of posturing.
• Charity: Our civilization, is descending into toxic polarization and reflexive tribalism that make vulnerable, loving encounters a rarity rather than the norm. Today’s young people have grown up listening to partisans shouting past one another on TV and having the option to block anyone whose opinions they don’t share.
Bullying follows us to a degree unimaginable to our parents, with peers able to harass others in the middle of the night from anonymous accounts.
We show up to church, craving to hear that – contrary to what this cacophony of critical voices insists –we are lovable and loved. But far too often the message is a list of sins we had better avoid, lest we condemn ourselves to eternal damnation.We want to know we are loved as we are. And that our elders love us enough to not leave us as we are, but to challenge us to become the version of ourselves God made us to be.
Amid a din of strident self-assuredness and inflexible orthodoxies, young people want the church to approach them with gentleness, acceptance, a belief that those under 30 have something to teach the church, and that the transmission of truth is not merely a transfer from pulpit to pew.
Instead of leaping to advise or admonish about a young person’s problems, we who represent the church can practice the art of accompaniment, using phrases like, “I hear you,” and “Wow, that sounds awful,” and “So what can I do to help?” We can greet their vulnerability — perhaps the most precious gift a young person can share — with patient ears, loving eyes and a merciful embrace.
There’s no magic bullet to bring young people back to the church or ensure that those in our congregations and classrooms are having an experience of faith that will keep them committed for life. There’s no single DVD series, Catholic motivational speaker or youth rally that will guarantee their participation, much less a genuine encounter with Jesus.
Rather, it is on each of us baptized believers to be Christ to one another — to model authenticity, charity and humility whose impact on individuals can never fully be calculated.
Bayer is director of evangelization and adult formation at St. Clement Catholic Church in the Archdiocese of Chicago.Tags: Catholic Beliefs