Today I was going through my mental list of Christmas presents that I have purchased. I was doing well until I thought of one name. I have not bought or planned or made anything for John. This made me realize that, lately, I have allowed him to slide to the bottom of my "to do" list. It is easy to do at this busy time of year, because I know he understands that I have a lot on my mind and a million things to do.
It is easy and understandable that this might happen occasionally. But, I really have to watch and make sure that it does not happen often. If I find John constantly at the bottom of a list of people and tasks, then I know that I am not making our marriage a priority. I am losing opportunities to show him how important he is to me. I am losing opportunities to spend time with him. I am forgetting to be fun and romantic. Our marriage can grow stale and we can start to become isolated from each other.
Anytime I notice this happening, I try to reprioritize. John is very important to me. Our marriage is very important to me. I want to nourish it and help it to flourish. I make choices every day. I want to be deliberate about the way I am living my life and make choices that make our marriage stronger.
I have decided that, from today until Christmas Day, I am going to move John to the top of my "to do" list. I am going to put him first. I am going to make spending time with him a priority. I am going to do at least one nice thing for him every day. I want to show him each and every day how much I love him.